Wherever you go, whoever you're with, whatever promises you've heard, you are eventually going to be faced with disappointments. Despite how high or low your standards are, how hopeful you are that people will be different than the pattern you've been seeing, a pattern is a pattern for a reason. One day, you'll meet someone or find a situation that makes you feel on top of the world, while the next, you'll face a cloud that just seems to wash all of those hopeful feelings away. You meet someone, find hope in them, just to watch them turn to someone else. You'll encounter an amazing opportunity, throw your entire life into that situation, just to find out it's been given to someone else right before your eyes.
When you feel crushed, you feel crushed. There is nothing you can do other than move forward. Sure, disappointments hurt. Even family and close friends will disappoint you. Hell, even you will disappoint yourself. But it is inevitable. There is absolutely nothing that can be done to avoid it. You can try to deny that terrible things are happening to you. You can try to tell yourself that you've already been through so much so there's no possible way that life can get any worse. But it will. And you will have to deal with it whether you want to or not.
Pain and happiness are only relative terms that we construe based on how we feel and who we are around. If we turn our emotions into simply words, will we still feel those emotions? Are these little critters inside of us just noise, or are they dictators of our minds? Can we truly feel pain if we don't acknowledge that pain exists? Why not change the way we see our pain? Why not see every bad situation as just another event rather than something terrible that needs to be dwelled upon?
We cannot change how others behave, how others respond, whether or not they do respond, or who others choose to spend their time with. We can only change how we respond to the things that others do. We can either let others tear us down, or we can let them simply exist. We can let others change us, or we can change others by showing them that they can't hurt us. We all have our own individual lives to live. If we allow it to keep shifting based on how others treat us, we end up losing ourselves. Do we really want to keep living for others, changing for others, changing for people who eventually hurt us? Or do we want to live for ourselves for a change, knowing that we can never disappoint ourselves if we stay true? People enter and leave our lives all the time. No one is permanent. Nothing is permanent. Stop letting people control you when they don't have the right to do so. Stop letting the actions of others drive who you can and can't be. Stay true to yourself and let the actions of others knock on your door. You are in control of your own life. It's the only thing that others should not be able to take from you. Don't lose it. Embrace it.